Amanda had always been fiercely independent. She prided herself on being self-reliant and self-sufficient. She had built a successful business from the ground up, and she was always looking for new opportunities to expand it further. But there was a problem. Amanda had trouble relating to others. She struggled to connect with people on a … Continue reading You don’t have to “go it alone”
How to stop the habit of being against things
Peter had always been an ambitious individual. He was a high-performing manager at a reputable company, and he was always seeking to improve the way things were done. One day, he had an idea to harness the power of his team's ideas to achieve even better performance. He knew that if he could get his … Continue reading How to stop the habit of being against things
How to stop having difficulty being accepted
Amanda had always been fiercely independent. She started her small business from scratch and worked hard to make it successful. However, as the business grew, Amanda realized that she needed to collaborate with others to expand further. She struggled with the idea of relying on others and found it hard to trust anyone else with … Continue reading How to stop having difficulty being accepted
Learning to accept criticism
Loraine was a high achiever and a perfectionist who had always taken her work very seriously. However, she had a reputation for not taking criticism well, which often made it difficult for her to collaborate effectively with others. Loraine recognised that she had conflicting needs. On one hand, she wanted to improve herself and to … Continue reading Learning to accept criticism
Giving up being dictatorial
Trevor had always been a successful businessman but had difficulty letting go of control. He believed that to have great decisions happening in the business, he needed to keep control of the decision-making. But as he began to recognise the importance of his employees' input, he realised he needed to find a different way. Trevor … Continue reading Giving up being dictatorial
How to deal with internal conflict
Amanda had always been a determined woman. She had started her own small business from scratch, and it had grown to become a successful enterprise. But as the years passed, she found herself feeling more and more disconnected from the people around her. She had become so focused on her work that she had forgotten … Continue reading How to deal with internal conflict
How to grow with inherent dignity
This article explains the challenge of growing with inherent dignity and what you can do about it. Let’s explore... "I think, therefore I am" This statement by René Descartes became a fundamental element of Western philosophy and is at the heart of the western analytical approach to life. It is self-focused. "I am, because of the others" This statement … Continue reading How to grow with inherent dignity
Should we blame the system or the people?
Who, or what should be blamed for poor performance? Should we blame the system or the people? The first problem here is blame. Nothing good ever came from blaming. Let's think logically about the problem. It seems to me that we should focus on supporting people (not blaming them) so that they can improve the … Continue reading Should we blame the system or the people?
Inherent simplicity opens the door to our hidden beliefs.
"And your last observation highlights why Inherent Simplicity is so helpful. Inherent Simplicity recognizes that as we dive down, causes converge. Convergence means that each meaningful cause is responsible not for just one effect, but for more than one. Believing in Inherent Simplicity assures us that for any meaningful cause there are at least two … Continue reading Inherent simplicity opens the door to our hidden beliefs.
Did you know you can measure resistance to change?
The reason most people want change is to get more satisfaction. The reason most people don't want to change is to maintain their security. When people feel pressure to change and they feel pressure not to change they resist change. That is not good for people who want to grow (and that is everyone!) There … Continue reading Did you know you can measure resistance to change?
Overcoming resistance to change.
In order to experience happiness we need satisfaction. In order to get satisfaction we want to change. But, In order to experience happiness we need security. In order to have security we don’t want to change. When we feel pressure to change and we feel pressure not to change we resist change and end up … Continue reading Overcoming resistance to change.
How we resist change.
In a previous post I described Efrat's Cloud, a very effective way to explain why we resist change. Human thinking and behaviour is very complex. In order to make something complex easier to understand a picture can paint a thousand words. While Efrat's cloud is a picture that describes the dynamics of our thinking and … Continue reading How we resist change.
What do lawnmowers and clouds have to do with solving problems?
I was once given a piece of sage advice. I can't remember where it came from or from whom. It went something like this …. "If your lawnmower breaks down and you don't know how to fix it just keep looking at it until you see the solution. You will be amazed at what you … Continue reading What do lawnmowers and clouds have to do with solving problems?