Amanda had always been fiercely independent. She prided herself on being self-reliant and self-sufficient. She had built a successful business from the ground up, and she was always looking for new opportunities to expand it further.
But there was a problem. Amanda had trouble relating to others. She struggled to connect with people on a personal level, and as a result, she often felt isolated and alone.
She knew that she needed to change if she wanted to achieve her goal of creating more business opportunities. She needed to be heard, respected, and included. But how could she do that when she struggled to relate to others?
Amanda sought the help of a coach. The coach helped her to identify that her desire for independence and self-reliance was rooted in a deeper need to feel safe and secure. The coach also helped her to recognize that her struggle to relate to others was preventing her from achieving her goal of creating more business opportunities.
The coach worked with Amanda to develop new skills and strategies for relating to others. They helped her to build a strong network of business contacts and taught her how to communicate more effectively with them. Amanda began to feel more confident in her ability to connect with others, and she started to see the results of her efforts.
However, there was still a conflict. Amanda’s desire for independence and self-reliance was still there, and it was causing a compromise that was preventing her from achieving her goal of creating more business opportunities. She knew that she needed to find a way to meet her need for independence without compromising her ability to relate to others.
Amanda realised that her need for independence was not the same as “going it alone”. She worked with her coach to develop a new understanding of what it meant to be independent. Amanda learned that she could still be self-reliant while also building strong relationships with others.
With this new understanding, Amanda was able to achieve her goal of creating more business opportunities. She learned that vulnerability and courage were necessary for building strong relationships, but that it was possible to do so without compromising her independence.
Based on a real client participating in our coaching course. The name has been changed to maintain confidentiality.
Read more about Amanda’s coaching. Search “Coaching Amanda” at YourThinkingCoach.com.
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