You may have developed high levels of ‘conventional’ thinking and behaviour that could be acting as a handbrake on your success.
Hi, I am Karl Perry.
I coach people to develop thinking habits that create success.
Some thinking habits act as a handbrake on success.
Let’s check that handbrake for you.
The more these statements describe you, the more ‘conventional’ you are at the moment:
- Reluctant to try new things
- Prefer to follow others’ orders
- Uncomfortable varying your daily routine
- Have difficulty making decisions
- Fear being asked your opinion
- Pride yourself on your ability to do exactly what is expected
- Seldom, if ever, question or dispute a rule
- Overly concerned with how others do things
If you think any of these statements describe you then your ‘conventional’ thinking on the circumplex could be high.
‘Conventional’ thinking is a security based style and will act as a handbrake.
The good news is that you can change this!
With the right coaching and support you can take the handbrake off and speed up your success by using thinking styles that accelerate your performance.
If ‘conventional’ thinking is a handbrake for you, here are a couple of suggestions to get you started. Just pick one for now and come back next week to try another:
- Recognise that conventionality is a way of hiding yourself and avoiding developing as a person. By giving up control of your life to outside factors, you become a mirror that reflects the expectations of everyone but yourself.
- Ask yourself if your life is how you want it to be, or if it has become merely adherence to rules and others’ expectations. If so, question the effectiveness of continuing to behave this way.
- Break out of your routine and do something – anything – different. Eat in a new restaurant, take an unexplored route to work, or buy something in a colour you normally don’t wear.
- Focus on your own unique strengths and skills. Recognise and appreciate the things that make you different from others.
- Take a moderate risk and challenge some procedure that you have been accepting without question.
- Continually remind yourself that your sense of self-worth is not tied to how well you “blend in” and follow the rules.
- First, formulate your own beliefs and convictions, then learn to stand behind them. Rely upon and trust your own judgement
- Look for ways to do things differently at work and at home. Using a new method might help you do something better.
- Listen to yourself. Decide what you want out of life and go after it. Live your life for you.
Let me know in the comments which one you are working on this week and I will follow up with you within a week. If you prefer you can email me.
Thank you for the opportunity to be of service.