You may have developed high levels of ‘power’ thinking and behaviour that could be acting as a handbrake on your success.
Hi, I am Karl Perry.
I coach people to develop thinking habits that create success.
Some thinking habits act as a handbrake on success.
Let’s check that handbrake for you.
The more these statements describe you, the more ‘power’ oriented you are at the moment:
- Use force, intimidation and coercion to dominate others
- Driven to be in charge at all times
- Quick to anger, impatient and irritable with others
- Will seek revenge if provoked
- Enjoy giving orders and feeling in control
- Fear a loss of control
- Believe in power as a means of heightening prestige and status
If you think any of these statements describe you then your ‘power’ thinking on the circumplex could be high.
‘Power’ thinking is a security based style and will act as a handbrake.
The good news is that you can change this!
With the right coaching and support you can take the handbrake off and speed up your success by using thinking styles that accelerate your performance.
If ‘power’ is a handbrake for you, here are a couple of suggestions to get you started. Just pick one for now and come back next week to try another:
- Examine the quaility of your relationships. Try to establish at least one close, trusting relationship. You may find that you appreciate the support a satisfying relationship can offer.
- You may be tying your sense of self-worth to your ability to control situations and people. Consider the consequences of not controlling everything. What do you think will happen?
- Concentrate on developing some personal goals. Think about how you would really like things to be in your life. Start with something small, but important to you.
- Try a more tactful, friendly approach to others and watch their reactions. When you feel positive about something, let people know it; they will be much more responsive and cooperative. With perseverance, this positive approach can replace “scare” tactics.
- Increase your confidence in others by delegating assignments. Take an objective look at the results in terms of comparable quality and the time you save yourself.
- Spend more time listening.
- Recognise that your need for power could be based on fear. You may be using aggressiveness to mask insecurity. Examine your need for power. Question why it is so important to you.
- Weigh the benefits of being a power-seeker against the costs. Doing so may help point out the ineffectiveness of this style.
- Learn to be a mentor to others. Try helping and supporting one person in meeting his or her career goals, and enjoy the sense of personal satisfaction you gain.
- Seek feedback on your behaviour from neutral sources.
Let me know in the comments which one you are working on this week and I will follow up with you within a week. If you prefer you can email me.
Thank you for the opportunity to be of service.